Stephen Carter

1972 - 1999
LocationNewcastle Upon Tyne
Age27 years
Cause of DeathOverdose
Date of Birth07/10/1972
Date of Death24/10/1999
Visitors4,935 since 10/04/2007
Creator

Dear son of Elizabeth and John, brother of Michael and a dear dad to Ashley.
Died tragically of a heroin overdose 2 days after being released from prison. Sadly missed by all
the familyxxxxx

Stephen your legacy will live on, i will make sure it does son xx


A Mother’s Love For Her Son

Our son Stephen was born on 7th October 1972, I was so proud when I held him for the first time in
my arms looking at his beautiful blue eyes and his blonde hair as he grew his hair was platinum
blonde and his eyes were so big and blue I thought to myself, “you are going to break a lot of
girls hearts when you grow up” but I didn’t realise that it would be mine.

Stephen was a normal mischievous child always playing jokes and laughting,his smile would light up a
room, when he turned 10yrs old he joined the scouts then went on to join the army cadets, he looked
so handsome in his uniform. Stephen said that he would join the regular army when he left school,
it’s all he wanted to do.
When Stephen was 15yrs old he met Jen, they seemed to be well suited, soon he forgot about going to
his army cadets and drifted away from it altogether, when he was 20yrs old his girlfriend was
expecting their baby, he was born on 19th August 1993 and they named him Ashley Stephen he looked
just like his dad when he was born.It was a rocky relationship, Jen was always putting Stephen out
and I would take him back into our home then one Christmas when I had taken him back I discovered by
accident that my beautiful son was injecting heroin. I was horrified. Stephen said he was sorry but
he couldn’t stop. My son was a heroin addict it’s the worst fear a mother could ever have.
We lost Stephen to heroin on 24th October 1999, he had just had his 27th birthday in prison for a
shoplifting offence. On the day Stephen was released from prison he looked lovely his eyes were
clear and his skin was clear, he asked me if he could have a bath to freshen up (get the prison
smell off) was his words, when he came downstairs he smelled lovely he said to me “I might meet a
lass tonight” and I said “yes with all your dad’s smelly's on i'm sure you will.” Off he
went to town, two days later came a knock at the door about 7-45pm it was two police officer's as
soon as I saw them I knew it was Stephen, they came to tell us what we were dreading. Stephen was
found dead in the Haymarket toilets with the syringe still in his groin, it was a heroin overdose.
Because Stephen had been clean for 6 weeks his body couldn’t take it. We had to wait 3 weeks
before we could have his funeral because the police were waiting for toxicology reports so they
wouldn’t release his body.

Stephen was on heroin for 3 years although he was on it for 18 months before we knew about it, we
managed to get him into rehab 3 times and 3 times he signed himself out, he told me that he
couldn’t stand the pain trying to come off it so we accepted that he was a heroin addict and we
gave him all the support that he needed even as far as giving him money to pay off the dealers as
they battered him on the hands with a hammer till they broke them, I couldn’t stand to see him
being hurt like that, the dealers even phoned threatening us.
We have another son Michael who will be 39yrs old in July he is still single and has a council flat.
I am glad to say Michael doesn’t touch heroin thank goodness. I can’t begin to imagine what it
must be like to have more than one heroin addict in the family as I do know that in some family's
this is the case.
Stephen was dead 3yrs before we found out about Newcastle PROPS (Positive Response Overcoming
Problems of Substances) we never had any counselling or support whatsoever until then, Props has
been a great help to my husband and myself, in fact I think if we didn’t find out about Props we
would have separated because we couldn’t talk to each other about Stephen’s death until we met
our props family support worker, you can imagine the pressure that was lifted once we began talking
to each other about Stephen. People like us need people like there are at Props.

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A BIG THANK YOU TO EVERYONE WHO HAS LEFT TRIBUTES AND LIT CANDLES. KEEP IT UP TO KEEP STEPHEN'S
MEMORY ALIVE FOR ALL ETERNITY..........GOD BLESS YOU ALL XXX





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THE MASTER'S BOUQUET

The Master walked in His garden
Plucking flowers along the way;
He plucked one of my loved ones,
To add to his bouquet.

My heart at first was broken,
At the loss of one so dear;
But the tears I shed just washed my eyes,
So I saw His way more clear.

My Lord has a need for just this one,
For the pattern He has in mind;
But it's hard for the rest of us to see
Why we must be left behind.

Perhaps we are not ready to go just yet
We may need to ripen more
To reach the full blown fragrance
My Lord is waiting for.

To each, give forth a fragrance
To each we chance to meet
We should each be trying day by day
To make our fragrance sweet.

So I'm going to try my very best
To be loving and kind each day,
So at last I'll be counted worthy
To be part of my Master's Bouquet.

Author Unknown

Joyce Tidy Wednesday afternoon

Where is Heaven ?
by Faye Kilday





Where is Heaven?


Is it somewhere in outer space?


Where does my loved one now dwell...


In some far and distant place?





Heaven is all around you...


It's as close as the air and love that surround you.


Heaven is everywhere...it's not just in the skies,


It's a spiritual dimension that can't be seen


through human eyes.





How do I know my loved one is safe?


How do I know they are well?


How do I know that they made it to Heaven?


Is there any way that I can tell?





Your loved one is well in heaven because


they're surrounded by God's love and care,


And I can promise you that they made it to


Heaven, because an angel guided them there!





Is there any way that I can tell them how


much they meant (and still mean) to me?


I'm not sure how to contact them, do you


know what Heaven's address could be?





Just talk...and know that they hear you,


Because you'll never be truly apart;


And Heaven's address? Well now, that's simple...


Just send your thoughts care of your heart!

Joyce Tidy 5 days ago

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They say there is no reason
they say time will heal
but neither time nor reason
will change the way we feel...

For no-one knows the heartache
that lies behind our smiles
no-one knows how many times
we have broken down and cried...

We want to tell you something
so there won't be any doubt,
you're so wonderful to think of
but so hard to be without...♥



♥ *★ *★ ♥
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Joyce Tidy 1 week ago

♥ If i could wish upon a star ♥
♥ I would wish for you back here ♥
♥ I know you're happy where you are ♥
♥ But i miss you and want you near ♥

♥ Although i see you everyday ♥
♥ In my thoughts and in my dreams ♥
♥ I miss you more than words can say ♥
♥ It just gets worse, it seems ♥

♥ I try to be strong for others around ♥
♥ But all i want to do is cry ♥
♥ I just sit for hours by myself ♥
♥ And ask the question 'Why'? ♥

♥ It's the strongest pain I've ever felt ♥
♥ I don't think I could describe it ♥
♥ Although I try, I do my best ♥
♥ I don't think that I can hide it ♥

♥ My life will never be the same ♥
♥ That's why it's hard to bear ♥
♥ Because since the day you left us ♥
♥ I think that life's not fair ♥

♥ Some things seem not to matter now ♥
♥ Even things that mattered before ♥
♥ You have no idea what I would give up ♥
♥ To make this pain less sore ♥

♥ People say we'll meet again ♥
♥ And yeah I know that's true ♥
♥ But I wish it didn't have to be this way ♥
♥ Because you know how much I miss you ♥

♥ I love you with all my heart and soul ♥
♥ And there's one thing you need to know ♥
♥ There's not one person in the human race ♥
♥ That could ever take your place ♥

~X~X~X~X~X~X~X~X~X~X~X~X~X~X~X~X~X~X~X~X~X~X~X~ X~Sending love to you Always Joyce xx

Joyce Tidy 1 week ago

Night Night Stephen Sleep Tight

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Love Susan XX

Susan And Harry (Family Friend) 2 weeks ago

10 Years Today

Another day without you..
Just cuts us up inside
These tears that fall like rain..
I can no longer hide
Another day without you..
As we feel so all alone
I really need to hear your voice..
So please come home..
Or phone
Another day without you..
As we think of you with love
You will always be our Angel..
In heaven up above
Another day without you..
The days and nights are long
So please help us get through this pain..
And keep us safe and strong.
Missing you more than words can say.

Loving you always Stephen xxxx

Elizabeth Carter (Mother) 2 weeks ago

my freind

open up my heart to God
In my own special way
I dont ask for tomorrows
I want all my yesterdays

My yesterdays were happy
For they included you
So much love and laughter
We shared just me and you

Tomorrow is just another word
It means nothing to me
Please give me back my yesterdays
And my Angel back with me

Chris Gorman (Friend) 3 weeks ago

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☆SLEEP TIGHT ☆ ANGEL ☆ KEEP SHINING BRIGHT ☆
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LOVE ALWAYS XXX.

Fiona Black 3 weeks ago

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Do you make them laugh in Heaven,
Does your smile bring them good cheer?
Do you make the sun shine brighter,
Like you did when you were here?

The very mention of your name,
The memories of your smile,
The little things that you did,
Are with us all the while.

You meant so very much to us,
There’s nothing left to say,
Except that without you here
There is no perfect day.

For no one knows the heartache,
That lies behind our smiles,
No one knows how many times
We have broken down and cried.

We want to tell you something
So there won’t be any doubt,
You’re so wonderful to think of,
But so hard to be without.

We hold you close within our hearts,
And there you shall remain.
To walk with us throughout our lives,
Until we all meet again.

Joyce Tidy 4 weeks ago

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